My heart bleeds each time I talk to my friends and hear the
story of their lives. But I’ve always asked myself what do we women do to
deserve all this?
So I went on a young fact finding mission to really know the
root of the problem. I really didn’t want to base everything on my experiences
because that would be a very biased opinion but I must say I learnt a lot when I
really dug deeper into this issue.
I will spare you all the gory details of what has happened
to those close to me but I’d much rather talk about our insecurities and how
they work or aide to our destruction and oppression by our counterparts.
Women look for love for the wrong reasons. We try
to search for our ultimate happiness in someone else but little do we realize that
all we need is to love ourselves and be happy and confident with ourselves as
we are. We need to realize that we are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalms
139:14) and we can never fully be happy with life until we are happy with
ourselves. It all boils down to self worth; people will treat you in the same
manner you treat yourself. Don’t ever expect that man to treat you like a queen
unless you act like a princess!
Women tend to overlook TOO many irregularities
and by the time we realize that you cannot live with your mates behavior it’s
usually too late. Ladies, a man will never wake up and just start bashing your
head after being married to him for 1 year. It’s always the petty things like
that shove when you are arguing or his overly controlling nature and the
swearing. I would never tolerate a man who calls me a b*%#@ whatever the
situation! We somehow seem to turn a blind eye to all the warning signs until
the bell finally falls onto head and all you are left with are the scars from
the aftermath.
There are lots of needy women out there! (Yes
ladies I just had to say this) It may not always be financially but even the
constant nagging can be too much for anybody. Let me talk about the dollar
bills first. We all need to realize that a man is supposed to your partner not
your father. Most women always opt to look for the wealthy man who will take
care of them and their children but the truth is something’s gotta give. You
can never fully enjoy a relationship with someone who always seems to have the
upper hand in everything. You can never stand up and voice your issues because
you are scared you might lose your livelihood but the truth is you are losing
your life. You have given up your life to drive a merc or stay in a mansion or
to go shopping in New York.
I’d also want to talk about the emotionally
needy woman (most women are, myself included) who have pledged their lives to
be central intelligence agents of their partners for the rest of their lives.
They make it their business to know where their man is and what he’s doing, who
he’s with, and where their going afterwards……..! Oh my gosh I assure you if
they could they could they’d stick a bug up their man’s a%# and keep a tab on
him 24/7. But I think the issue is not with the man himself but with trust
itself. We no longer know the meaning of the word we have become a bunch of doubting
Thomas’ we’d rather have him prove it than believe it. And truth is it does any
relationship more harm than good. We waste most of out time worrying and
fretting about whether our mate is faithful or not we don’t realize that our
lives are passing us by focused on an individual rather than on you.
I think I’ll stop here for today, but I will continue to
write about this complex issue. . . . . . . .
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